Dear Banshee,
I'm a bit confused. It has mostly to do with sexuality and my cousin... Well, actually it has to do with my cousin's sexuality. My cousin is what "they" would call a "lesbian", or at least was a "lesbian". From what I understand, she's involved with a man. But that's not the confusing part. The confusing part is that she claimed to be a lesbian for the past ten years and only a week ago she announced that her most recent/new "relationship" is with a man. I mean, can't she make up her mind? And the weird thing is, now her sister claims to be a lesbian. I'm hoping you can explain this to me. Is this a form of sabotage?
--Confused in Bar Harbor
Dear Confused,
How do you define sabotage? It seems to me they're still trying to figure it out for themselves while you stand on the sidelines questioning your own opinions about their sexuality. As Confucius might say, "Let them figure it out in their own time and spend your confusion on yourself."
Only Time Pays.
--Banshee
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